Other Campuses: Sex experts help females find their ‘O-face’
April 26, 2005
(U-WIRE) BOSTON – Wannabe Casanovas and satisfaction-seeking females received sexual enlightenment Friday, as BU Central hosted “The Big O” at Boston University — a lecture that examined the topic of the elusive female orgasm.
Event organizer Tara Glick said she chose to host the lecture because of the intriguing subject matter.
“It just seemed like an interesting, fun event,” the School of Management sophomore said. “It is very relevant for college students and should have a big draw.”
Sex educators Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller presented topics ranging from having better and multiple orgasms to finding the G-spot.
Solot began the evening by talking about her struggle with breast cancer.
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“One night I was lying in bed getting ready to fall asleep, and I just stretched and absentmindedly ran my hand down my arm and across my chest, and I noticed this small lump,” she said. “When I found out my lump was breast cancer, I was blown away. I was flabbergasted.
“It’s not wrong to touch your body,” she continued.
Solot said she began to learn that masturbation was okay from her parents at a young age.
“My parents said masturbation is fine — it’s just something you do in private, like not in the sandbox,” she said.
Miller and Solot went on to criticize the sexual-psychological censorship often experienced by children, specifically discussing parents conditioning infants to avoid contact with their reproductive organs and adolescents to say “no” to sex.
After the group presentation, the males and females were separated into two groups for more intimate discussions.
In the male group, Miller said surveys show that most women prefer “the motion of the ocean” over size and dislike quiet sex.
In the female group, Solot brainstormed “things that feel sexy” including chocolate, shower faucets, dirty thoughts, lubrication and full bladders during sex.
Miller said the event was intended to promote healthy living through encouraging sexual complacency. “One of the most important themes is that it’s healthy to know about sex,” he said. “Dorian shared her history of being a breast cancer survivor. She found the cancerous lump because she was comfortable with her own body.”
College of Arts and Sciences junior Rafael Lamberti said he hoped the event would stimulate new ideas and sexual techniques.
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“Every girl that we’ve talked to has been like ‘Oh my god, this is such a great idea!'” Tylka said.
“I’m a good commander,” he said. “I’m just trying to find ways to give back to the female community because they have given me so much.”
Solot said the event represented a celebration of what it means to be a woman.
“I think female orgasm is a really fun subject, but it always links to body image, women’s health, feeling good about ourselves, woman’s empowerment,” she said. “I think you can use a topic like orgasm to get at some of those bigger issues that affect woman’s lives in so many broad ways.”
Miller and Solot also sold T-shirts with plans to donate 25 percent of the profits to Breast Cancer Action, an organization dedicated to fighting breast cancer.
College of Arts and Sciences sophomore Jen Wyatt said she had vested interest in the subject matter.
“I’m taking notes,” she said. “This is something that every girl wants to learn to perfect.”
College of Communication sophomore Tay McEvers said she was drawn to the lecture because of female pride.
“I guess you could say that I’m just a fan of the vagina in general,” she said. “I’m just proud to have a vagina and I want to learn more about it.”
CAS freshman Alexandra Dyke said she was pleased that the event benefited Breast Cancer Action but dissatisfied with the lack of male attendees.
“I think it’s awesome that some of the profits are going toward breast cancer research,” she said. “The turnout’s awesome, but I wish more guys would have come. You would think that this is a good place to pick up girls.”
Sophomore Kelsey Strand-Polyak said the information gained at this lecture would stay with her for a long time.
“It’s the gift that keeps on giving,” she said.
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